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With The Social Network nominated for an Oscar in 2011 and Mark Zuckerberg named Time magazine’s “Person of the Year” in 2010, it has never been cooler to be a nerd than it is right now. In this day and age of all things high-tech, we couldn’t think of a better time than now to celebrate the self-proclaimed nerds of Match.com. We researched our top 10 cities with the highest educated Match.com members (either in technical or educational occupations), and eureka! Sunnyvale, CA (in the heart of Silicon Valley) is THE number-one place to find yourself your very own nerd.

The nerd-factors of some cities might seem obvious because of the brainy companies and schools that are stationed there. For instance, Sunnyvale is home to many online businesses, Cambridge is home to Harvard University, and Somerville is home to another prestigious university, Tufts. In each one of our geek-hubs you can find a technologically advanced company or a scholarly university. So it seems that if you have a heart for the smart, search for a smarty-pants of your own in one of these 10 cities.

1. Sunnyvale, CA — In the hub of the intellectually stimulating Silicon Valley, Sunnyvale is home to some of the brainiest companies, including Yahoo!, Palm, Inc., and several aerospace/defense companies. Sunnyvale is one of the few U.S. cities to have a single unified Department of Public Safety (where all personnel are trained as firefighters, police officers and EMTs), so they can respond to any of these types of emergencies from a single department. Nowthat’s smart!

2. Cambridge, MA — Cambridge is home to two highly esteemed and prominent schools, Harvard University and the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (M.I.T.). The city is also noted in history as the birthplace of the U.S. Army by the scholarly George Washington.

3. Somerville, MA — Cambridge’s nerdy neighbor, Somerville, is home to the private research university, Tufts. As one of the most densely populated municipalities near Boston, there are many clever minds to be found within a compact area.

4. Berkeley, CA — This San Francisco treat is the site of the University of California at Berkeley, the oldest institute of higher learning within the revered University of California systems. The state-of-the-art Lawrence Berkeley National Laboratory also calls this city home.

5. Santa Clara, CA — Resting in the center of Silicon Valley, Santa Clara hosts the headquarters for Intel, Sun Microsystems and many other high-tech companies. It’s also the home of Santa Clara University (the oldest institution of higher learning in the state of California) and Mission College.

6. Ann Arbor, MI — In Ann Arbor, the University of Michigan employs about 30,000 people — which equals roughly 26% of the city’s population. The city’s economy mostly depends on developments in high technology, as many companies are drawn to the area due to the educated alumnae that have matriculated there.

7. Boulder, CO — Not only serving as the home base for the University of Colorado, Boulder is also a burgeoning hub for high-technology, electronics and aerospace companies. Five of every six adults in the Boulder area (82.5%) have attended college.

8. Columbia, MD — The nearby National Security Agency and Fort Meade Army base account for more than 8,000 highly educated jobs that can be found in Columbia. On another nerdy note, the city takes its street names from famous works of art and literature. In 2010, Columbia was ranked #2 on Money Magazine’s list of the top 100 “Best Places to Live” in the United States.

9. Fairfax, VA — In May of 2008, Forbes commended Fairfax for its strong public school system, high median salary, and financially fit employers in the city, which include SunTrust and Federal Technology Services.

10. Rockville, MD — Situated at the core of the Interstate 270 Technology Corridor, Rockville is home to numerous software and biotechnology companies as well as several federal government institutions. Its per-capita venture capital investment is the highest of any town outside of California.

Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively.

But God says, No! Not until you are fulfilled with being loved by ME (Jesus) alone, discovering that ONLY ME is your satisfaction to be found. Then you will be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you.

You will never be united with another until you are united with ME, exclusive of anyone or anything else, exclusive of any desires and longings. I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and ALLOW ME to give the most thrilling plan that you cannot imagine.

I want you to have the best! Please ALLOW ME to bring it to you. Just keep watching ME, expecting the greatest things, keep experiencing the satisfaction that I AM. Keep listening and learning the things I tell you. You just wait! That’s all !!!!

Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry. Don’t look around at the things others have gotten or that I have given them. Don’t look at the things you think you don’t have. You just keep looking up to ME or you’ll miss what I want to show you.

Until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready. (I am working even this moment to have both of you ready at the same time), until both of you are satisfied exclusively with ME and the life I prepared for you, you won’t experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with ME and is thus the PERFECT LOVE.

Dear one, I want you to have the most wonderful love! I want you to see in the flesh, a picture of your relationship with ME and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty, perfection, and love… that I offer you myself.

And then, when you are READY, I will surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any of you would dream of.

Know that I love you utterly.

Love,
GOD

By Bob Strauss
One of the things that makes “jealousy” such a loaded word is that it’s really a concoction of various other emotions, the exact recipe for which depends on the individual. As Dr. Scott Haltzman, author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men, phrases it, jealousy “is the fear or worry that someone with whom you have an emotional relationship may be experiencing an attraction toward another person… it generates a host of emotions, such as sadness and inadequacy, or rage and desire for retribution. The sadness comes from the fear of losing the object of your love, and the rage comes from a desire to have it back.”

Fear, worry, sadness, inadequacy, rage — as stark as those emotions sound, you may be surprised to learn that a little jealousy is perfectly healthy (and even normal) in a relationship. No jealousy at all — or huge, seething buckets of it — are a good indication that something has gone amiss. So how do you know if you’re feeling the “right” amount of jealousy, and how do you express it without driving your significant other crazy? Here are some tips.

1. Be honest with yourself. According to Dr. Ish Major, author of Little White Whys: A No Nonsense Guide to the Lies Men Tell in Relationships and Why, some men feel so secure in themselves and in the fidelity of their partners that they experience no jealous feelings whatsoever. Aside from these lucky guys, Major says, most men who refuse to admit to jealousy fall into one of two camps: either “they aren’t paying attention and have no clue that they should feel jealous,” or “they simply don’t care… this type of guy would be more than happy if someone (other than himself) would come and sweep a partner off of her feet and right out of his life.”
Clearly, it’s better to acknowledge (at least to yourself, and perhaps to trusted friends or relatives) the little bit of jealousy you do feel, rather than letting it fester for weeks or months only to explode at a melodramatic moment. Sometimes, just sitting down and writing in a journal will help you to objectively assess your feelings; perusing a hastily scribbled entry, like “Mamie should have been home from the grocery store 20 minutes ago! I KNOW she’s been flirting with the floor manager!” will hopefully make you feel ridiculous enough that you’ll do something more productive than obsessing over your significant other.

2. Express your feelings appropriately. Sometimes, as with that grocery store fantasy, jealousy-provoking scenarios are best left unshared with your partner. If you do decide to unload, Dr. Haltzman says, you should keep in mind that “expressing jealousy is a double-edged sword. It says ‘I care about you enough to be jealous,’ but it also says ‘I don’t trust you.’ I think it’s more important to talk about the experiences that lead to jealousy rather the jealousy itself. So instead of saying ‘I’m really jealous of the time you’re spending with Tommy,’ you might say, ‘I have to admit, I’m a little jealous that you and Tommy went to the movies and then went out afterward.’”

Granted, very few people can discuss their jealous feelings so rationally and calmly. Says Dr. Major, “It’s rarely helpful to express full-fledged anger over an issue that has made you jealous. You can never control a person to determine who flirts with whom and what their respective responses are; just make sure you’re doing everything you should as a mate, because you’re the only one you can fully control in this equation.” What are the signs that you’ve taken your jealous feelings too far? One clue, Dr. Major quips, is that “you notice children and strangers looking on in horror and snapping pictures of you with their phones.”

3. If you’re not feeling it, don’t be afraid to fake it. “Some, if not most, women are absolutely flattered when their partners get jealous,” says Dr. Major. “Think Marilyn Monroe. Think Scarlett O’Hara. For women, a partner’s jealousy serves a multitude of purposes, not the least of which is letting them know they still ‘have it’ and somebody wants it. It also lets them know you’re paying attention and you care.” Not surprisingly, Dr. Major adds, “I am a strong advocate of feigned jealousy. I have used it personally and at times I’ve advised friends and patients to do the same.”

Dr. Haltzman points out, of course, that feigning jealousy (and expressing it) can have unforeseen consequences. “Some women worry that if a guy isn’t jealous, he might not care enough about her. Early in the courtship, she might use jealousy to get the man to pay more attention. If he seems disinterested, she’ll go off and talk to someone else and becomes a more ‘valuable’ partner because other people are attracted to her.” The trouble, Dr. Haltzman concludes, is that “if a woman is used to seeing jealousy as proof of attraction, she may worry when the jealousy disappears” — leading to a vicious cycle of jealousy and jealousy-provoking behavior. What’s the lesson in all of this? Tread carefully when feeling or expressing jealousy, but a little bit can be a good thing!

Bob Strauss is a freelance writer and children’s book author who lives in New York City. He’s also written the Dinosaur guide on About.com, the online information network owned by the New York Times.

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Early in life, we hear the word “love” spoken; more, we feel our parents’ love, through their concern for our welfare, their sacrifices, their acceptance of the people, and the things that would make us happy, sometimes at the expense of their own comfort and preferences.

Children seldom fully comprehend what love is, until they are put to the test, as they sometimes are. Only later in life does the meaning of love becomes clear. For some people, even, it never does. And these are the people so wrapped up
in themselves that they are incapable of love in the true sense of the word.

Oh yes! They can say they love others, but sometimes  it doesn’t really mean they do.

For to love is to feel for your loved one, to suffer with and for that person, to know a sense of incompleteness without that person and a feeling of contentment with your only one’s company.

Many have tried to fathom the why’s and wherefore’s of love, to analyze why this particular person came to love that one so intensely. No one has come with the right answers yet and I certainly don’t intend to try.

Call it chemistry, call it fate, that brings two people together at such a time and at such a place, casting both under the spell of love. I only know that such things happen, and lucky are the ones to whom true love comes.

There were two hearts who met in a dance. That moment was magical, there was a sweet song playing, there was harmony. And soon love is in the air. They fell in love and they started building castles in their dreams. And promised forever with all certainty. But somewhere in the midst of the fun, they got lost in the dance. Something went wrong, but they can never do anything. They were just drifting away, their fortress falling apart. There were so many questions but no one had an answer. Then the music stopped, then there was silence. . .

When we truly love someone we give our best and let that person see the pureness of our intentions. But sometimes that person makes us cry and hurts us for the wrong reasons. That someone must have loved us but he has not loved us enough to make him stand for what he truly felt. Now, we are faced with the seemingly impossible task of forgetting. We have burdened ourselves long enough. But we still can’t get out from this emotional trap.

Let us remember that the more we try to forget someone we love, the more painful letting go will become. Sometimes we never have to take that person out in our hearts at all, for he will always be there no matter how hard we try to drive him away. It isn’t his presence that made this difficult but it is our stubbornness to accept our destiny that aligns forgetting is next to impossible. We keep a cold face but deep in our hearts there still that lingering hope for a reconciliation. Somehow, we still believe that we can rekindle small embers and relight the fire that once burned in our hearts. This thought gives us hope but it also breeds the seeds of loneliness and despair.

The only way to forget is to accept and the only way to move on is to look ahead and let the footprints of the past be blown by the winds of time. Only then can our hearts find a partner in the dance of life and hopefully never get lost again.

Sometimes you have to let go of the one you love to find out if there is really something there.
You know that you’re in love when the hardest thing to do is to say goodbye. 

  
Why do people fall in love and then end up crying?
Why do lovers walk away from themselves when their hearts are breaking?
Why does loving sometimes never stay long?
Why does gladness become sadness?
Why do we always hurt the ones we love?  
– things that I don’t get! 

Someone’s always saying goodbye!
I believe it hurts when we cry.
Don’t we know parting’s never so easy?
And with all the achings inside, I believe some hearts won’t survive
Tryin’ hard to pretend that we’re gonna be fine.   

There’s a reason why people don’t stay where and who they are.
Sometimes love just ain’t enough.
Someone’s always saying goodbye. 

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